Identity is something we work hard to gain, possibly, to lose in an uncertain split second. To build an identity, we have to take many things into account, including our commitment to something we integrate with our identity, people who are important to our identity either as people with whom we identify ourselves with or people who we are always out of any picture we are a part of. Identify gives us face value, without which we can feel really unrecognized or completely out of the world in a gathering.
People can complicate themselves when they do not pay attention to the invisible nets they cast for themselves and for people who form part of their identity when they do not pay attention to how carefully they are dealing with them. It is no secret that familiarity breeds contempt in the human mind. And that is why people can easily face situations where they find themselves one fine day in a really awkward situation - just because they walked into one of the nets they cast for others themselves.
Anything like that is like someone pulling the roof of his shelter on himself, becaues one's identity is completely jeopardized to the point where it is almost lost in situations like this. The person who complemented you in the picture you were in will all the time will very soon become a complete stranger and rob you of the identity you had. Or maybe, the both of you mutually agree to take a split and so, grow estranged wilfully. Or perhaps circumstances come your way that demand that you go your separate ways and however desparately hard you try to fix it, you simply drift apart, not wondering what you can ever do to get back to being the same and you fret and worry about it till the day whhen you make up your mind that you will have to accept whatever has happened since that is the way things were meant to end up, however badly you did not want it.
Also, you would feel equeally or more threatened if something you identify yourself with as a part of your identity, which is rightfuly not yours but you have contributed heavily to it so you can claim to something of that degree, is one day, requested to be shared with unwelcome folks. Like it was not bad enough that people are taking turns to beat you up, this should actually throw a brick at your head.
It is hard to keep your head above your shoulders in such going, but that is all you will need to get yourself through the rough period. And if you don't do it so - you are in for a tough time ahead. Now, isn't that all the reason you need to keep it nice light and simple?
People can complicate themselves when they do not pay attention to the invisible nets they cast for themselves and for people who form part of their identity when they do not pay attention to how carefully they are dealing with them. It is no secret that familiarity breeds contempt in the human mind. And that is why people can easily face situations where they find themselves one fine day in a really awkward situation - just because they walked into one of the nets they cast for others themselves.
Anything like that is like someone pulling the roof of his shelter on himself, becaues one's identity is completely jeopardized to the point where it is almost lost in situations like this. The person who complemented you in the picture you were in will all the time will very soon become a complete stranger and rob you of the identity you had. Or maybe, the both of you mutually agree to take a split and so, grow estranged wilfully. Or perhaps circumstances come your way that demand that you go your separate ways and however desparately hard you try to fix it, you simply drift apart, not wondering what you can ever do to get back to being the same and you fret and worry about it till the day whhen you make up your mind that you will have to accept whatever has happened since that is the way things were meant to end up, however badly you did not want it.
Also, you would feel equeally or more threatened if something you identify yourself with as a part of your identity, which is rightfuly not yours but you have contributed heavily to it so you can claim to something of that degree, is one day, requested to be shared with unwelcome folks. Like it was not bad enough that people are taking turns to beat you up, this should actually throw a brick at your head.
It is hard to keep your head above your shoulders in such going, but that is all you will need to get yourself through the rough period. And if you don't do it so - you are in for a tough time ahead. Now, isn't that all the reason you need to keep it nice light and simple?
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